So, you’re pregnant. Congratulations! You’re probably feeling a range of emotions right now and that’s perfectly normal. I’m assuming since you’re reading this post that your partner hasn’t heard about your newest addition to the family. Whether this pregnancy was planned or not it will still be a huge blessing for you and your partner. Here are a few thoughtful ways to share the good news!
- Come right out and tell them! You can even show them the positive pregnancy test if you want (I did!) as proof that you’re not joking around. For an extra keepsake, capture their reaction on video with your camera after you break the news.
- Make a cute card to let them know you’re expecting! Put it in a nice envelope and surprise them with it after dinner. You can help set a relaxing mood by making them their favorite dessert or giving them a massage before you hand them their card.
- Plan for a steamy night in….then writes the good news on your belly! Remember to use the washable marker. When your partner takes off your shirt, they’ll be so surprised you might have to remind them why they took it off in the first place.
- Give them a “gift”! Everyone loves getting surprising gifts. Pick out some baby-related apparel (beanies, socks, a rattle, etc) and wrap it like a present. You can make it small to easily hide inside your purse and give it to them while you’re out on a date. Or you can make it big and leave it lying around the house for them to find. The options are only limited by your creativity!
Telling your partner you’re expecting can be exciting and nerve-wracking at the same time. Pregnancy is a big deal and you might be worried about how your partner will react to the news. They might be ecstatic but it takes a while for some partners to grasp the idea that they’re going to be a parent in 9 months.
You can make it easier on yourself and on them if you plan out how to break the news. The above tips use humor and warmth to ease into a conversation. You know your partner best, though. Pick a time you know they’ll be relaxed and present with you. Plan what you’re going to say. Say it concisely – without rambling or talking too much. It will make it easier for your partner to hear and process.
Now for your partners’ reaction. You can’t control this part. They may be thrilled and elated at the news. If you’re nervous, they might try to comfort you. On the other hand, your partner might be really surprised and unsure of how they can be a parent. That could cause them to respond in funny ways like mumbling, shutting off their emotions, leaving the room and thinking that you are joking with them.
Please don’t take these reactions personally. They are not a reflection of you or how much love your partner has for you. These are responses to the shock of hearing something unexpected. Just give them time. Don’t worry if your partner doesn’t come around to the idea of pregnancy right away, especially if the pregnancy was unplanned. With a little space, love, time to adjust and a lot of discussions, they will start to love the idea of being a parent as much as they love you. Try your best to be patient and understanding.